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Open to everyoneNew to FLR? The basics, the vocabulary, and how to raise it with a partner without it going sideways.
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Female-led dating
She sets the terms. He's glad she does.
A verified community for women who lead and the men who want to follow. Real profiles, clear dynamics, and every conversation opened on her say.
18+ only · Photo verification required · No explicit content
Example profileMara, 34Leads with structure · Looking for long-term
Her rules for messaging
- Verified members only
- Must answer her 3 questions
- Within 80 km
Safety and privacy
- Face-verified profilesA live selfie check before you appear in search or send requests.
- You choose who can reach youPick which roles can send you requests. No unsolicited messages, ever.
- Discreet by designBlurred photos until a match, a neutral app name, one-tap hide.
- Basics are never paywalledDistance filters and messaging your matches are free for everyone.
Clear dynamics from the first profile view.
Define your dynamic
Pick how led you want things to be — from gentle guidance to full-time structure — plus what you're looking for and your hard limits.
Match on compatibility
Profiles show dynamic level, relationship goals and lifestyle up front, so nobody wastes a week finding out you want different things.
You open the door
Every request answers your questions and fits your settings. You read, decide, and start the conversation — or don't.
Whether you lead or follow
If you lead
An inbox you control.
- Set 3 entry questions every request must answer
- Choose which roles can send you requests
- Filter by verification, distance, dynamic level and goals
- Pause, hide or block in one tap
If you follow
Show who you are.
- A profile built around devotion, reliability and what you offer
- 3 free requests a day — plus bonuses for being verified and helpful
- Answer their questions thoughtfully to stand out
- Verified status earns you visibility
The TrueFLR community
More than swiping.
Forums for learning, asking and living female-led — whether you're single, curious, or ten years into a dynamic. Every space has its own rules about who can post, and every poster can choose who replies.
Trending in the community
Read freely · join to replyCommunity spaces
Women's Lounge
Women reply · all can readEvery thread where the poster asked for women's replies, gathered in one place. Swap notes, vet requests, compare experiences.
- Setting rules that actually stick
- Red flags in a request — share yours
- Leading without burning out
Posters choose who can reply
Living It
Couples post · members readFor established couples: day-to-day structure, money, chores, family life, and keeping a dynamic healthy over years.
- Who handles the money in your house?
- Weekly check-in templates that work
- FLR with kids at home
Linked couple accounts can post
Devotion & Service
Followers' cornerFor anyone who follows and wants to be a better partner: service ideas, writing a good request, and getting honest feedback.
- Service that doesn't feel performative
- Profile review: tear mine apart
- Being patient when you're new here
Every member can read and reply
Local & Meetups
Verified membersCity boards for public, low-key meetups — coffee, dinners, discussion nights. Hosts are verified and events follow the safety code.
- Coffee meetups in your city
- Women's dinners
- Hosting your first meetup: the checklist
Boards by city · public venues only
Stories & Matches
Open to everyoneMembers who met here, anniversaries, and the honest stories of what worked and what didn't. Posted by couples, approved by both.
Both partners sign off before posting · 0 threads
Leaders' Lounge
Verified leadersFor members who lead, of any gender: setting rules that stick, vetting requests, leading without burning out.
- Setting rules that actually stick
- Leading without burning out
Plus “Leaders' Perspective”: leaders post, everyone replies
Member groups
Created by membersStart your own private group with your own membership and posting rules — a city circle, a couples group, a women-who-lead group.
- Women Who Lead
- City couples circles
Group owners set and enforce their own rules
Monthly · Ask Me Anything
Live Q&A with relationship professionals
Therapists, coaches and long-time couples answer member questions. Questions are asked under your forum name, never your dating profile; transcripts stay in the forum.
Community rules
- Consent comes firstAdvice that ignores consent is removed.
- Keep it clothedNo explicit images or content, anywhere.
- No pitching in the forumsForums aren't for requesting dates. Use Discover.
- Pseudonyms welcomePost under a forum name separate from your dating profile.
Honest pricing. Monthly, not weekly.
One set of plans for everyone, whatever your gender or role. Receiving likes and requests is always free and unlimited.
Free
$0
- Unlimited likes and requests received
- 10 likes and 3 requests a day to send
- Near-me search and basic filters
- Messaging your matches, forums, all safety controls
Earn more, free
+5 requests/day
- +2 when you're verified
- +1 for a complete profile
- +2 for being helpful in the forums
Plus
$14.99 /mo
- Unlimited likes, 15 requests a day
- Browse any city · advanced filters
- See who viewed you · incognito browsing
- Hide people who aren't accepting requests from you